There is no doubt about this: deep breathing, visualization and relaxation tools are powerful when it comes to positive birth. HypnoBirthing not only helped me, but also hundreds of my couples were comfortable, natural childbirth. But some tools are not enough, and they will not serve anyone who falls into the hands of an obstetrician with a high level of cesarean section.
Embracing change
I have always believed that when a woman changes prenatal care for pregnant women in the middle of a pregnancy, this indicates that she feels informed, empowered and extremely responsible for her outcome at birth. She understands that prior to her hiring - yes, hiring is the right medical expert. For some, this “right practice” is a hospital midwife, and for others, a midwife (who can attend your birth in hospitals, birth centers, or your own home). Unfortunately, in modern culture we tend to invest more energy in choosing the right real estate agent than the right trainee on labor. Philosophy and practice may differ significantly from practice to practice, and your task is to find a guardian whose values, goals, and approaches best fit your own. What matters is how much you trust her and the extent to which you are convinced that she shares your emotional desire for the most natural, unhurried, satisfying birth and post-natal communication.
While many couples agree with the right practitioner right from the start, others understand somewhere along the line that they are with a guardian who is not right for them. (When I was on a twelve-week pregnancy with my son, my own obstetrician drew an imaginary C-section line through my bare belly with a finger, as a rule, to introduce me to the scar, which she foresaw, in particular, my perfectly healthy low-risk pregnancy. a) termination notice with one of the guardians is frightening for some, but it should not be. It was as easy for me as requesting a copy of my records from the administrator (remember that this is yours by law, so you are not required to explain) and transfer them to the new caregiver.
What love has to work with her?
Some women admit that they are not crazy about their guardian’s philosophy, but insist that they just love her as a person. No matter how much you love your OB, just remember, you love your child more. And of course, you can engage in an emotional and lengthy “break up” conversation if you want (“I'm sorry, doctor ... It's not you, it's me”), but make sure that it will serve you so, and I don't want to soften your fault. No complaints, no explanations. Your child hopes that you will align with the right person.
In retrospect, I was lucky to be with a midwife, who was wrong for me at every level. As soon as I realized what kind of birth I had done and did not want, it was obvious that I had to leave. It is much more difficult for women who are simply not sure. Their heads tell them that they made a sensible choice, but their intuition hides them to reconsider. Women in this category belong to what I dedicate to reminding about this post: the reasons for the breakup with your caregiver.
Red flag number 1: He is engaged in the presumptuous use of the word "let." For example: your doctor says that he will not let you go through 40 weeks, will not allow you to eat or drink at work, or will not allow you to work without IV.
You are the hiring manager here. It is his job to serve you. Before you begin any medical procedure, he must inform you about the risks, benefits and alternatives before asking if you allow permission to move forward. (The law of voluntary informed consent deceives you.)
Red flag number 2: she has a high caesarean section, or, even worse, she does not know what the cesarean section is.
The World Health Organization has long stated that no country on earth should have a cesarean section of more than 10-15%. A caesarean section is the most common operation in our country, and childbirth has become our main source of income in hospitals. (Why most hospitals are non-profit institutions that are starting to worry). Consider this: in 1970, one of twenty genera in the United States was a cesarean section. Today, these statistics - every third, and every year rises. If your OB does not seem to care about its own cesarean rate in order to track and distinguish what it is, then perhaps you should find someone who does it.
Red flag number 3: he reflects with concern about the size of your big baby or small pelvis.
The pelvis conceived by your child is unlikely to recognize the pelvis that is going to deliver it. Hormones make the pelvis relax and “stretch” significantly during labor, allowing an impressively wide passage for your baby. Secondly, the babies' skull is not fully formed at birth for any reason: the baby’s head is designed to be compressed to fit into the passage. Thus, even if your child has an unusually large head, nature has this extra trick up its sleeve — this is called casting — in his magnificent quest for survival. Third, most of the weight of the child is in the body, and the body tends to slip away very quickly and easily as soon as the head and the first shoulder are presented. So why do we spend so much time worrying about big babies? Positioning the head is much more important than the size of the child. As for macrosomia (the medical term for "overweight newborn at birth", which is defined as infants weighing more than 8 pounds 13 ounces), it is better not to worry about it. First, it is impossible to determine the weight of a baby in the womb with the help of ultrasound or any other technology - so you will not be able to find out if your baby meets the definition before birth. And in a personal note, it is hard for me to take this seriously: my son and daughter both satisfactorily met the definition of macrosomia in accordance with their “excessive” weights. Not only do I give birth to my big babies in a natural way, but unusually quickly, without molding or tearing. Big babies are born all the time, often to very small women. This is not a pathology. This is not even an anomaly.
Red Flag # 4: it makes your deadline as a deadline.
The only reason you have a time limit is that our culture is determined to turn the art of childbirth into science. All other mammals, apparently, live well without them. But it's all right, let's go with him: your term means forty weeks of pregnancy. Now here, where it becomes interesting: children born between 37-42 weeks are considered “full terms”. Premature <37 weeks and post-term or "overdue" is> 42 weeks. By its very definition, your due date is the midpoint of the call curve of your likely arrival dates for your child. Studies show that at least 80% of babies were born +/- two weeks from the due date. What does it mean? To go through your deadline is normal. Labor induction drugs, such as pitocin, have been approved by the FDA for use when it is medically necessary. Passing your date is not a medical event. This is a common and ordinary occurrence. You may not experience this concern in mid-pregnancy, but your caregiver’s approach to the deadlines may be the result of your birth plan. If you have not done so already, ask your practitioner when she thinks you are “overdue.”
Red flag No. 5: He expects you to be in a supine position (supine).
The position on the back significantly limits your pelvis. All this wonderful space I mentioned earlier is now counted by a mattress pressed to your lower back. Not to mention the fact that most women believe that the position on the back is completely unbearable when other positions (for example, hands and knees or squats) seem completely controllable. You can use gravity to your advantage when something in your body is trying to get down and out. If you eat naturally, the pressure and weight of your baby will guide you to the safest and easiest place to give birth. And, at least, your guardian should encourage you to be in a position that is convenient and convenient for you, and not for anyone else.
Red flag number 6: Your intuition tells you something.
After thinking about your teacher, but you can not rely on him? You must not. But do not ignore your intuition. Providing childbirth is gently and easily possible only with confidence - trust in nature, your body and child. Waiver of these forces of nature is rooted in self-confidence.
Your intuition already tells you if you are in the right hands.
You are listening?
