All of us were taught that in order to grow personally and professionally, we need to learn how to become the best communicators. Unfortunately, there are many bad or bad examples that surround us every day that can have a significant impact on your own communication skills. After you learn more about how to avoid these 3 communication errors, you will not only find that your message has received not only the best, but also a better understanding, and you can just get the spotlight. So, what are these 3 common mistakes of effective communication?
For example, the audiobook I just listened to was guilty of all three of these mistakes, and between the author, the publisher and the narrator, I expected them to catch at least one of them. But this does not stop there, because you will see as soon as I discover the three mistakes you need to avoid. I am sure that you will recognize any number of situations where you have seen this time again and again.
The first mistake is that it’s not who you are. The author of the sound book I was talking about is a very intelligent and extremely successful person, but when you listen to a sound or read a physical book, he comes across as if he is a lecturer with several doctors speaking to a similar group of highly educated people. But this is not who he really is, and I was very disappointed that he took this route with a self-help book whose target audience was you and me, ordinary people who wanted to improve their lives. When you hear him speak at public events or even in private conversation, he’s not like that. He is a very simple, ordinary person, and so he says. He is very intelligent and more than able to talk to anyone at an appropriate level of understanding.
Not only did he portray himself as someone who he is not, but any public trainer tells you that you need to try to communicate on the same level with your audience or if you work with a wide audience, then you should try to speak at level 6 or 7th grade to ensure understanding of your message. It also did not sound like that, not only because I know the author, but even if I didn’t, it seemed that he was struggling with some more technical sections, where he was above his level. He sounded like someone who occupied 3 years of classes in a foreign language, and then tried to visit this country and pretended that he was born and grew up there, he just does not flow and does not sound believable. On top of that, it also made his message not to understand and not to perceive how it could be.
It doesn't matter what I say to my wife, and it doesn't matter what I meant to make her understand, all that matters is what she heard, felt and perceived when she received the message I sent. . You might quickly find yourself in a dog house or in the midst of an argument that you do not know how it started. I need to make sure that my wife understood the message that I wanted her to receive, and that it worked out correctly, so I always watch to see what she felt, heard and perceived, so I can try to rephrase the message, trying sort out. Of course, this is a challenge when you are reading a book or listening to someone say that they do not directly interact with you one-on-one. In such situations, you want to keep your material easily digestible & # 39; not necessarily in simple terms, but try to convey your message using more common words used in everyday situations. Listen to some of the biggest talk show hosts, and you will notice that they do not use the language they learned in college, but treat their viewer or listener as if they were a neighbor or a friend with whom they had an occasional chat. .
But this is not just a “talk down,” which annoyed me in combination with knowing how he spoke in a regular conversation about the same topic, it also led directly to the second error.
The second mistake he made was that he did not paint the picture in the listener's voice as I know. One of the keys to communication is to understand that there are many different factors that come into effective communication, and if you share a story or try to make someone understand what you are trying to say, then you want to talk in such a way that he could literally paint a picture in the mind of another person. Author fiction uses it sometimes so incredibly that by reading the pages you can visualize and see exactly what they are talking about. You can portray the scene they are discussing, you can even portray people and how they look. You even know in clear, vivid details what the weather is like when you read the pages, dive in and are completely connected with the story that the author is writing. Unfortunately, one drawback of discussing a specialized topic in the field of self-help can make it very difficult if the author adheres to more technical and medical terms and does not tell the reader that the problem is in vivid detail in order to paint a picture clearly that it will help to solve. The same method is used in the copy of sales all the time when the reader turns to a vivid explanation of the problem, and then slowly leads to a very clear picture of how the product will not only provide a solution, but also just make coffee. Details and technical aspects are not as important as WIIFM & or What & # 39; s-in-it-for-me, which force the reader to stick to the sales page.
The third mistake was made by the narrator, but I still feel that the author, or at least the publisher, had to address and correct this mistake. He was boring, with capital B. Speaking in a very monotonous voice at a speed slightly slower than average speed, I could do all this not to fall asleep, and the sad part is that I not only respect the author much, but also know a little about the topic which was covered and rented to find out more about it, and the book, as well as the record, definitely had valuable information to share. I don’t feel that I learned a lot from him, and in order to learn more, I’ll either have to force myself to sit down and listen to all 5 CDs several times or just switch to another author. Let's face it, we all saw movies or even experienced it is themselves, where the lecturer speaks with this slow, drawn out monotonous voice that made almost everyone sleep, there can be no more sedative. You need to add a voice to your voice, you need to breathe excitement and energy into your voice, otherwise you will not be able to transmit your message as efficiently as possible.
When was the last time you sat down with a very technical book that went on and on with all the talkative words you had to look for in a dictionary to even understand? Ever read a science textbook? There is nothing better to help you relax from the lecturer with a monotonous voice.
I remember that one of my teachers in the chemistry class tried very hard to make the class interesting and interesting, and one day he came in with a bucket of snow and asked us if we heard that the snow had become flammable due to a recent industrial accident. Of course, it caught our attention, I mean, he tried to convince us that the snow could burn.
Then he proceeded to a dim fire, rolled out his lighter and slowly, painfully slowly, moving the lighted lighter closer to the bucket and snow that we could see inside.
Suddenly, POOF, there was a noisy sound and, of course, the snow seemed to catch fire. We could hardly believe our eyes, each of us was chained to the edge of our place, trying to understand what we had just seen. Moreover, the snow did not melt. Nothing. The flames danced on the top of the bucket, and nothing came in the snow. As young teens, we had visions of comic book heroes floating around our mind as we reflected on the meaning of this incredible scene that we watched and how it should have been tied to an industrial accident. In the end, isn't it how some superheroes got their super powers?
He then went on to explain that it really had nothing to do with an industrial accident, but rather was caused by a chemical reaction between a small pebble of this pesticide, and he placed it in the upper part of the bucket. The resulting chemical reaction between the snow and this mysterious pebble created steam, which essentially sat on top of the snow, and what we really saw was this steam. Then he went to the blackboard to pull out all the relevant charts and formulas, and we all paid 100% attention.
Now, to teach the class and make sure that I never forgot a lesson, and that’s how you should try to communicate with your audience. No matter how technical or boring this topic may be, if you take a minute, I am sure that you can find a way to make it more exciting and interesting for your audience, and this will allow them to keep and understand that you are also trying better. Unleash a fascinating and fascinating storyteller that lurks deep inside you, and you will not only attract the attention of your audience, but maybe even find yourself in the center of attention ...
